Do you...

• Spend a lot of time watching your partner's mood before speaking?
• Doubt your judgment or think you are crazy?
• Fear your partner and fear that nobody will believe you?
• Feel you have lost confidence in yourself?
• Feel depressed, trapped, and powerless?

Does a family member, husband, partner or friend...

• Deny you access to family bank accounts, cars, credit cards and control all the money?
• Control your activities by preventing you from going where you want and from seeing friends and family?
• Threaten you with deportation?
• Insult and humiliate you in private or public?
• Encourage other family members to mistreat you?
• Become jealous and accuse you of having affairs?
• Abuse and humiliate the children?
• Blame you for causing their behavior?
• Threaten to hurt or take away your children if you leave?
• Push, kick, slap, or hit you?
• Force you to have sex against your will?
• Destroy furniture or household items in fits of rage?
• Threaten you with deadly weapons?
• Threaten to hurt your family if you leave?

If you answered yes to any of the questions you should know that...

• There is nothing wrong with you and you are not alone
• You do not have to suffer in silence to be a good wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister or friend
• Violence does not end without help
• 66% of women report being abused
• It escalates in severity and frequency
• Continuing to live in an abusive situation is not in the best interests for you or your children
• Your immigration status does not depend on staying with your husband

What can you do?

• Call 911 if you are in danger or injured
• Keep the following things in a safe place:
• Important documents like green cards, passports, birth and marriage certificates
• Personal jewelry
• Extra house and car keys
• Check books, credit cards and money
• Telephone numbers and address books
• If you leave home, take your children with you and the important documents and things listed above
• Get help by calling someone you trust or a 24-hour hotline
• Call Narika after you are in a safe place to discuss your situation at (800) 215-7308
• If you know someone who is being abused, give them this brochure and ask how you can help